I've been humbled this last year by my utter inability to shed pounds. I've read articles and books, digested theories and made plans. I've been angry, motivated, ambivelent and defiant. I've used food as a punishment and as a reward. I've "tried" lots of ideas, tested theory after theory.
And I'm still fat.
This year, I'm determined to get to the bottom of my body's refusal to let go of the weight. And I think I'm finally onto the demons that have been plaguing me.
Demon #1 - Awareness
As much as I love to eat, I don't want to think about it. I don't want to plan it, I don't want to anticipate my next meal, I don't want to balance my meals and I certainly don't want to journal every damn bite that crosses my lips. This goes hand and hand with Demon #2, by the way.
Demon #2 - Honesty
I don't want to admit that sometimes I eat a handful of chocolate chips, or drink a second cup of coffee, or put an extra slice of cheese in my mouth. I don't want to count that glass of juice I drank. In fact, I don't want to have to be accountable at all. I just want to eat what I want to eat, and magically lose weight. Without revealing that I'm not as "good" at dieting as I want to believe.
Demon #3 - Eating Habits
Over the last few months, I've gradually slipped back into snacking mode. While I agree that for many people, five small meals a day makes more sense, for me, five small meals becomes constant grazing. I literally wander around with food in my hand all day long. Instead of sitting at the table and eating at a sedate pace, I stand in front of the pantry or the fridge, downing a few crackers, a string cheese, a little bit of this and that. My snacks add up to well over 500 calories a day, when I'm being honest and aware about it. Not only that, but most of the time, I snack without thought, and without enjoyment. My snacking has become a habit that continues even when I'm not hungry. 99% of the time, the snack is in my mouth before I've even closed the cupboard. I need to eat three balanced meals a day - which means planning ahead, shopping smart, allowing time for cooking and eating and writing it all down.
Demon #4 - Food Choices
I'm making good choices, generally speaking. But I tend to go heavy on the "white" flour items, and heavy on the whole-fat dairy, and skimp on lean proteins. I always need more fruits and veggies. Always. And that requires planning, because really, I'm totally satisfied by a bowl of pasta with red sauce. Who needs a salad? (Hint: me.) And again - the snacks add a lot of low-gratification, mindless calories. I need to put food on my plate and appreciate each bite. And I need to drink more water.
Demon #5 - Conflicting Advice
Count calories. Don't count calories. Fat is bad. Fat is good. No carbs. Good carbs. Red meat! No red meat. Sugar bad! Sugar fine.
Here's the deal: I'm a sucker for a persuasive argument. And like many dieters, I want to believe that I've finally discovered The Magic Answer to all my woes. You tell me that cabbage is the answer to my prayers, I'll try it. I draw the line at diet drugs, and I'm done with crazy eating. That said, however, I am working on eliminating refined sugars and flours from my diet. One meal, one choice at a time. Not because I believe it will make me magically thin, but because I believe it will correct some of my impulsive behaviors, and improve the health of my entire family.